For most couples, infidelity just about tops the list of their relationship phobias. Although there are those lucky ones who are totally secure in their partners, they are few and far between. Most of us simply have had some doubts about the faithfulness of our significant other at one point or another.
But when are you supposed to shrug off those errant thoughts? Put another way – and probably more urgently – when are you supposed to give those nagging doubts some very serious consideration?
You, of course, don't want to waste precious time, resources, energy, and emotion chasing what might turn out to be absolutely false (and end up feeling guilty and berating yourself for mistrusting your spouse). Before you take any serious investigative steps, therefore, you need to look for telltale signs of a cheating spouse.
And you don't have to look far. Signs of cheating are quite evident in facial expressions and that's where you need to start looking. So how to tell if your spouse is cheating on you? Look closely at his or her face for the following:
Liars often frown when they have to answer seemingly innocent questions that could bring their lie to the fore; the frown is an indication that they have to think their answers over very carefully or that they are extremely irritated by it or both.
Innocuous questions such as why he or she is out all night, why the credit card bill has skyrocketed, or why he or she missed dinner will not only elicit a furrowed brow but may also be met by a very guilty party with downcast eyes.
It's a quirk of human nature that we tend to touch our nose when we find ourselves lying – and a cheating partner is no different. Maybe there is some truth to Pinocchio after all? But it's not just the nose-touching that you need to watch out for; reports also point to observations that liars also can't keep their hands off their earlobes, neck, lips, and hair.
Ever notice that when you are awfully peeved at someone you tighten your lips into a thin line? Well that's also how cheating spouses look when they are faced with questions that they have to lie about – lies, for example, to cover up their extramarital affairs.
Or they could also be angry at you for putting them on that very prickly spot where their lies come very dangerously close to becoming exposed.
Biting the lips could be an indication of several things: discomfort, anticipation, furious thinking, holding something back, or guilt. While it may be difficult to pinpoint which it is your partner is feeling, watch out for this sign together with other facial expressions before jumping to conclusions.
A liar – and therefore a cheater as well – is automatically on a defensive mode and he or she would want to erect barriers when he or she feels as if you are being confrontational (even if you did not mean to be). Lacking barriers, the most they can do is to turn their face away from you.
A liar may be aware that turning their body away may raise suspicions, and so will downcast eyes, but turning their face away during the course of the "confrontation" is an involuntary reaction that a liar almost always has no control over.
Again, it doesn't have to be a confrontation – it can be any discussion that treads uncomfortably close to what they have to lie about.
An innocent person's face is animated. On the other hand, a person who is under a lot of stress – stress because of lying – would limit his or her facial expression.
That's because he or she wants to "control" his or her facial movements believing that by doing so means not giving anything away. In this case, "poker face" is nothing but a well-practiced facial expression and is far from the natural expression of a guilt-free person.
But when are you supposed to shrug off those errant thoughts? Put another way – and probably more urgently – when are you supposed to give those nagging doubts some very serious consideration?
You, of course, don't want to waste precious time, resources, energy, and emotion chasing what might turn out to be absolutely false (and end up feeling guilty and berating yourself for mistrusting your spouse). Before you take any serious investigative steps, therefore, you need to look for telltale signs of a cheating spouse.
And you don't have to look far. Signs of cheating are quite evident in facial expressions and that's where you need to start looking. So how to tell if your spouse is cheating on you? Look closely at his or her face for the following:
Liars often frown when they have to answer seemingly innocent questions that could bring their lie to the fore; the frown is an indication that they have to think their answers over very carefully or that they are extremely irritated by it or both.
Innocuous questions such as why he or she is out all night, why the credit card bill has skyrocketed, or why he or she missed dinner will not only elicit a furrowed brow but may also be met by a very guilty party with downcast eyes.
It's a quirk of human nature that we tend to touch our nose when we find ourselves lying – and a cheating partner is no different. Maybe there is some truth to Pinocchio after all? But it's not just the nose-touching that you need to watch out for; reports also point to observations that liars also can't keep their hands off their earlobes, neck, lips, and hair.
Ever notice that when you are awfully peeved at someone you tighten your lips into a thin line? Well that's also how cheating spouses look when they are faced with questions that they have to lie about – lies, for example, to cover up their extramarital affairs.
Or they could also be angry at you for putting them on that very prickly spot where their lies come very dangerously close to becoming exposed.
Biting the lips could be an indication of several things: discomfort, anticipation, furious thinking, holding something back, or guilt. While it may be difficult to pinpoint which it is your partner is feeling, watch out for this sign together with other facial expressions before jumping to conclusions.
A liar – and therefore a cheater as well – is automatically on a defensive mode and he or she would want to erect barriers when he or she feels as if you are being confrontational (even if you did not mean to be). Lacking barriers, the most they can do is to turn their face away from you.
A liar may be aware that turning their body away may raise suspicions, and so will downcast eyes, but turning their face away during the course of the "confrontation" is an involuntary reaction that a liar almost always has no control over.
Again, it doesn't have to be a confrontation – it can be any discussion that treads uncomfortably close to what they have to lie about.
An innocent person's face is animated. On the other hand, a person who is under a lot of stress – stress because of lying – would limit his or her facial expression.
That's because he or she wants to "control" his or her facial movements believing that by doing so means not giving anything away. In this case, "poker face" is nothing but a well-practiced facial expression and is far from the natural expression of a guilt-free person.
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